A groundbreaking book about why the one thing we all fear—ambivalence—is the one thing we must accept to find lasting love.If Love Could Think is an entertaining and practical book that addresses with warmth and intelligence the age-old question relevant to any stage of a relationship: why does love go wrong, and what can we do to make it right?After many years of treatingA groundbreaking book about why the one thing we all fear—ambivalence—is the one thing we must accept to find lasting love.If Love Could Think is an entertaining and practical book that addresses with warmth and intelligence the age-old question relevant to any stage of a relationship: why does love go wrong, and what can we do to make it right?After many years of treating patients with relationship problems, psychologist Alon Gratch has identified seven common patterns of failed love. These patterns include, for example, narcissistic love, when a person has so idealized the partner and the relationship that they can’t possibly continue to measure up; one-way love, when a person loves someone who doesn’t return that love; triangular love, when a third party, be it a mother, an affair, or a job is involved in the relationship; and forbidden love, the kind of relationship that is generally off-limits, such as when a teacher dates a student. In If Love Could Think, Gratch shows us that all of these patterns stem from one fundamental problem—our own ambivalence.With his trademark combination of depth and humor, and using many individual stories as engaging examples, Gratch walks us through the ways we get stuck in these patterns. In each case we are looking for perfect or ideal love. Every pattern creates an obstacle so we don’t have to face our own ambivalence about the relationship or the other person. But humans aren’t perfect, so no matter how wonderful love can be, there is no such thing as pure love. Ambivalence implies the existence not only of love but also of anger, disapproval, or disappointment. As Dr. Gratch shows, there are really only two choices: accept ambivalence as part of any loving relationship, or continue to repeat the patterns of illusory love. Happily, using a simple yet powerful three-step approach, If Love Could Think helps readers to use their own minds to break these patterns of failed relationships and find real and lasting love.From the Hardcover edition....
|Title||:||If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart|
|Number of Pages||:||256 Pages|
|Status||:||Available For Download|
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If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart Reviews
I liked this book. I found some interesting thoughts in it.
"The guys main point, only point, is love is giving." I actually thought it was "be the person over try to find the person.' But, this will be your job to figure out.
Great read! It helps to clarify many feelings, thoughts, experiences.I am looking forward for my friends to read this book, so that we could debate on it.I recommend it no matter if you are alone, in a long-time relationship and so on.I wish I had read this some years back...
Alon Gratch, based on "If man could talk" I'm really interested in knowing more about his views and soul/psychologic analyzes and insights. Soooo "LOVE" is the perfect ground since it is "the" MAJOR subject in ones life!!! ;-)Dr. Gratch: Can't wait to open that one!P.S.: I bit disappointed about the fact that 95% of the book is about what goes wrong ...